In a world full of “relationship experts” and viral social media clips, there is a dangerous narrative floating around. It’s the idea that if you are a “good girl”—specifically a virgin—you can trade your purity for a man’s commitment, even if he isn’t your husband.
In my latest podcast episode, I dive deep into why this “transactional purity” is not only a lie but a recipe for heartbreak. Here’s a summary of what we discussed.
Purity is Not a Transaction # Good Girl Lesson
There is a common myth that being a virgin guarantees you a husband or “good treatment” from a man you aren’t married to. I didn’t grow up in “purity culture,” and I’ve never heard this in church—I’ve heard it from the world.
God’s Word doesn’t tell us to wait until we find a “nice guy”; He tells us to wait for marriage. Doing things God’s way isn’t about earning a reward; it’s about protection. Following His wisdom acts as a defense, drastically reducing the risk of unnecessary heartache and the challenges of single parenthood.
